Welcome to Single Mothers by Choice!

Whether you are just beginning to consider the possibility of becoming a single mother, are trying to adopt or conceive, or are already a single mother by choice, we can provide you with information, resources, and the opportunity to create a unique virtual and local support network of your peers.

Single Mothers by Choice (SMC) was founded in 1981 by Jane Mattes, L.C.S.W., a psychotherapist and single mother by choice. Thousands of single women, predominantly in their thirties and forties, have joined us since that time and remain with us as they strive to be the best parents they can be.

Our primary purpose is to provide support and information to single women who are considering, or have chosen, single motherhood. Our members meet with one another all over the United States, and in Canada, Europe, and beyond. We network with each other and share information and resources about donor insemination, adoption, and parenting at local levels and/or through our lively online discussion forum and newsletters.

Learn how you can join and connect with our community today!

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momchildI noticed this morning, rushing to meet friends and go to a new play space, that I was feeling crabby. I was rushing my two-year-old, Sage, along, and being abrupt with my SMC friend’s five year old (who I had offered to watch for the morning.)

And I was watching myself, as if from a distance, thinking, “What do I have to be snappy about?”

I had almost no plans this weekend, and I got up Saturday morning and put away the laundry and went grocery shopping. And Saturday afternoon I did a big cooking project, so I wouldn’t have to cook for a few days.

So what do I have to feel stressed out about?

My parents were awfully short tempered, and it wasn’t a nice way to grow up.

And I notice that I am quick to correct Sage, quick to instill consequences. I don’t know how much … Continue reading