Welcome to Single Mothers by Choice!

Whether you are just beginning to consider the possibility of becoming a single mother, are trying to adopt or conceive, or are already a single mother by choice, we can provide you with information, resources, and the opportunity to create a unique virtual and local support network of your peers.

Single Mothers by Choice (SMC) was founded in 1981 by Jane Mattes, L.C.S.W., a psychotherapist and single mother by choice. Thousands of single women, predominantly in their thirties and forties, have joined us since that time and remain with us as they strive to be the best parents they can be.

Our primary purpose is to provide support and information to single women who are considering, or have chosen, single motherhood. Our members meet with one another all over the United States, and in Canada, Europe, and beyond. We network with each other and share information and resources about donor insemination, adoption, and parenting at local levels and/or through our lively online discussion forum and newsletters.

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Do I Have What It Takes To Go It Alone?
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Mature woman dreaming

I sometimes sense that when the thinkers/planners/tryers in Single Mothers by Choice say they admire those of us who are already moms, there’s perhaps a sense of wonder about how we do it all and whether the aspiring mom is up to the task herself.  I know when I was in the thinking phase, I often wondered the same about myself.

I wondered if those SMC moms possessed certain abilities I might lack, since it can be intimidating to see triathlon athletes and all the other high-powered and fabulous women who often frequent SMC’s online forums.  Most specifically, on a personal level, I don’t consider myself a very high-energy person.  Pre-baby, I loved to sleep in on the weekends and then curl up on the couch indulging in tons of TV watching and book reading.  My idea of a good time is dining out and then vegging out.  I’m not

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