If you’re on a journey to motherhood after 40 —whether via natural fertility, IVF, egg donation, surrogacy, adoption, or you’re parenting in progress —it’s your time to stand up and be counted.
In 2010, the CDC reported that the only age group in the United States to show a RISE in birth rate were women over 40.
I have a theory that everyone is now just 1 or 2 degrees away from a mother over 40 or a woman who’s going to be.
We talk of supporting the next generation of children who are faced with saving a planet nearly crucified by human greed.
Who’s empowering the mothers who will raise them? A growing number of them are mothers over 40.
The evolution of women having children later is bringing change at the bedrock of our culture.
And take heed: The same sort of people who now criticize us—accuse us of being selfish granny-moms who put their careers first—will one day wake up and find themselves calling us “Mom.”
To paraphrase Horton, ‘a mother is a mother, no matter how old.’ Respect comes with the job.
So far, we’ve kept our lips zippered about our journey—how challenging it can be facing motherhood, aging and the generation gap, all at the same time.
Sadly, we’ve bought into a culture of ageism and discrimination—the shame of daring to fulfill our dreams of motherhood when we should be sinking gracefully beneath the wrinkling decay of old age.
In fact, the popular image of older mothers has become a cultural archetype.
Or even become a caricature– someone like Eunice’s mama from The Carol Burnett Show, complete with a blue rinse and Coke-bottle bottomed spectacles, whacking anybody with her handbag who dares to speak out of turn.
So far, we’ve swallowed it, laid in the childbearing beds we made for ourselves and kept quiet.
Because they’ve made us feel like the queens of Advanced Maternal Age hiding at the back of the auditorium full peaches-and-cream complexioned Young Homecoming Moms.
But those days are over now.
Our numbers are growing. Our voices will be heard. We’re making our mark on the modern family, despite being discriminated against, at times even vilified, by public and press because of our age.
A new hybrid is emerging–one that fuses a mother’s devoted heart with a grandmother’s ageless wisdom.
Now, that’s as good as it gets!
Isn’t it time for the truth about motherhood after 40?