She has never expressed any desire for a dad or concern about not having a dad but there’s been a couple of threads on the private Single Mothers by Choice (SMC) Forum recently about other four-year-olds wanting dads who never really had seemed to care before. Still, she’s really shown zero interest so I thought maybe I misunderstood. Do you mean Papa? My dad. You want Papa? “NO! DADDY DADDY!” Still thinking she must be saying something else. Dani? (A good friend and babysitter.) Do you want Dani? “Nooooo! Daddy!” Getting desperate, I start throwing other ideas out: Grammy? Blankie? She gets more ticked off. “NOOOOO! DADDDY! I WANT MY DADDY!”
I give up on translating and start the talk. Ya know the one. Cara, you know we don’t have a dad in our family. We’re a mom and kid family. There are all different kinds of families…
Cara is in no mood for the talk. Keeps screaming for Daddy. Until she cries and screams herself out. 40 minutes of screaming meltdown. Eventually she calms down. Later goes into her room and gets her beloved stuffed puppy off her bed for cuddles. Picks him up, hugs him close and sighs his name “Teddy”. When she says teddy it sounds like deddy. Daddy. My daddy. Teddy. My Teddy.
So basically she’s screaming for her stuffy and I am giving her the “daddy talk”. Good grief!