Our Community

Single? Considering Becoming a Single Mother by Choice?

Single Mothers by Choice members are of all races, religions, ethnic groups, and lifestyles, from all over the United States and abroad. The main thing that we have in common is our belief that a woman can successfully raise a child on her own. Check out photos of some of our members and their children.

We have chapters in most major metropolitan areas of the US including, among others, Atlanta, Austin, Boston, Chicago, Dallas, DC/Virginia, Denver, Indianapolis, Los Angeles, Minneapolis, New Haven, New York, Philadelphia, Portland, Raleigh/Durham, San Francisco, Seattle and more. We also have members in Canada, Europe, and beyond. Whether or not there is a chapter near you, if you join, you will receive a list of members in your area and contact information for them. Keep in mind that new members join us every day, so if there is not yet a chapter in your area, there may be one soon.


The Single Mothers by Choice Forum is an online 24/7 support group for our members. Whether you are thinking about becoming a Single Mother by Choice or are trying to conceive or preparing to adopt; whether you are pregnant or are already a mother, you will find a welcoming community here.

Forum discussion topics include subjects dedicated to every aspect of the SMC journey. We have forums on thinking, trying to conceive/adopt, pregnancy, and all the stages of parenting. We also have topics on practical matters, like dating, budgeting, recipes, and so much more.

The Forum is a great place to get online support and information from other members who are going through the same things, and from those who have been through them already.


There has been a lot of media coverage of the SMC journey. In our Blog we speak for ourselves about our experiences at all stages of the journey. Contributions to the blog are welcome! Send them via email to SMC Director, Jane Mattes, smc-office@pipeline.com, for consideration.

30th Anniversary Celebration — Oct. 14-16 2011 in NYC! 

At our Celebration, for the first time in our history, some of the adult children of Single Mothers by Choice spoke to us about what it was like to grow up in an SMC family.

It was a wonderful day of panels and presentations about what we have learned in these last 30 years about how this choice impacts us and our families.

In addition to the panel of now-adult children discussing Growing Up in an SMC Family,  there was also a panel with Mothers of Grown SMC Children, as well as a panel about Searching for Genetic Roots.  Single Mothers by Choice founder Jane Mattes gave a presentation on “Growing Up in a Non-Traditional Family”, based on what she has learned, as a psychotherapist and a single mother by choice, over these 30 years.

We filmed throughout the day, and the DVDs of these panels and presentations are now available. You can order them now.

Contact us if you have questions.