So before I even joined Single Mothers by Choice (SMC), my “thinking” had been going on for a couple of years. These past couple of years I had become the relationship chameleon placing all hope in adapting myself to the next guy I would date in the hopes that he could be the father of my child. Ah, yes, the old rhyme “First comes love….then comes marriage”. Despite being in a relationship right now, I have decided that I have all the time in the world to get married, but not so much if I want to become pregnant.
For the record, I am dating someone who has amazingly survived cystic fibrosis, however this condition does not allow him to have children naturally. He makes sperm, but it does not leave the testes. It is a genetic vasectomy. We have been dating for 8 months now, but neither of us are ready to take any further steps with our future. He is supportive of my decision, realizing this is no longer about him. We have acknowledged he may or may not be in this for the long haul, and I am okay with this…so far.
Now that I have stated how I made my decision to progress, I had my first OB-GYN appointment this week to get started on my pregnancy goals. I am a nurse anesthetist and being in the medical field has allowed me to make decisions that many non-medical people would not. I would not necessarily call this enlightenment, as often too much information is not a good thing. For example, I did not know you could just order sperm online and do it yourself in the comforts of home! So I have paid for a doctors visit already that could have been avoided for some. However, I am glad I did because I had been tracking my menstrual cycles since October as they were becoming heavier and heavier. Freaking out about the potential of peri-menopause (at the ripe age of 35 1/2) my medical knowledge had gotten the best of me. My doctor did my exam and told me that I could could have low progesterone levels. This is KEY to maintaining a pregnancy in its early stages. My doctor also said this could be corrected, and many times subsequent miscarriages automatically lead to unnecessary and expensive IVF procedures when all one needed was a progesterone adjustment. He has scheduled me for a vaginal ultrasound in two weeks, and then will be drawing blood to check my hormone levels.
My doc has also “prescribed” a book for me to read to understand my cycles so I will know when I am ovulating. The NaPro Technology Revolution: Unleashing the Power in a Woman’s Cycle by Thomas W. Hilgers, is a book that will hopefully allow me to figure out when I am ovulating and, if there are problems, ways to treat these. I have also made an appointment with a fertility specialist. Again, this is where my medical knowledge has gotten the best of me. I always thought insemination occurred in the doctors office! While I do not think I have fertility issues per se, I am keeping this appointment so I have my foot in the door if a problem arises.
So far this is where I am at in my journey. I wish all of you the best!
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