Why I Am Taking the Leap

woman with young daughter1. I am sick of living my life for myself, i.e. clothes, jewelry, facials, massages etc.

2. I love spending time with my niece and nephew, i.e. playground, zoo, reading books, bathing, feeding etc.

3. I am scared of getting old and being alone

4. I have so much love to give, but no child to give it to

5. I want the mother-child bond; I want to feel needed

6. I hate holidays, get-togethers etc. because I am the only one without a child. I feel weird not having my own family and feel like the perpetual child showing up to family gatherings

7. I feel isolated from the world at age 32 because I have no children; people my age have children. I am finding it harder and harder to connect with people since I am childless. I am already feeling more connected with others because my mind-set has changed since I am on the road to becoming a mother

8. I am envious of mothers

9. I became depressed when thinking that I would not have children

10. When I think of having a child I immediately become happy and excited. Scared to death but happy and excited

11. I am content when I am really busy and have no time to think about the meaning of life

12. Having a child would make my life rich and meaningful

13. I now have time, money, patience and feel that I can provide a good life for a child

14. Volunteer work is not giving me enough satisfaction and I believe having a child would

15. I want to keep my niece and nephew for myself

16. I welcome the change of dynamics in my life and have come to realize that there is nothing that I do in my life that I cannot do with a child

17. I am sick of living in my perfect condo. I want a home with toys, love, chaos and a swing set

18. I am sick of having no responsibilities!!!!

19. I need structure!!!!

20. I don’t need to see another movie or read another adult book. Lately, I am only interested in children’s books but I need a child to read them to.

I am taking the leap because I don’t want to miss out on all these things and because I don’t want to be a bitter woman 10 years from now!

by: IthinkIcanIthinkIcan


4 thoughts on “Why I Am Taking the Leap”

  1. I am curious about becoming a single mother, but i dont know if this is right for me. Hear me out, and I dont mean to be rude, just thinking out loud but.. point 12 .. “Having a child would make my life rich and meaningful” .. shouldnt your life already be rich and meaningful? Regardless of you not having a kid? .. Especially if you are considering having kid. Kids should come into this world with a mother who is happy and healthy with their own life, right? I agree with some of these points but reading this… its making me realize that maybe I am being selfish for wanting a kid for me….. And not giving them the chance to have a father and a mother could be selfish. I grew up in a household with both parents and i needed BOTH my mother and father in my life….. thank you for this post. this helped a lot.

    1. It is a big decision, and good for you for thinking it through carefully. We have a section on our online Forum especially for “Thinkers” (our term for members who haven’t yet made a decision) and you might find it helpful to join us and share the thinking process with others. You can join us at http://www.singlemothersbychoice.org

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