All We Have to Fear is Fear Itself?

When I was originally thinking about becoming a mother on my own, I thought it was going to be monstrously hard. I thought I’d have no friends, and be incredibly tired all the time and be barely functioning.

And while it is hard, it doesn’t look quite like that. People come to visit all the time. The baby sleeps almost through the night, and I have affordable help at night twice a week so I can catch up on sleep. She’s apparently a really easy baby, so that helps. I sleep-trained her two nights ago, and it only took about 15 minutes.  I just put her down for a nap a few minutes ago and she didn’t fight it or cry at all.

She’s just super cute and enjoyable and while it is hard work, most of the time it’s kind of a quiet grind. There’s a lot to do, but it’s manageable. I just have to take care of one person, and I feel myself falling more in love with her every day. Apparently things are going to get much harder when I go back to work, but for now, my imagination was way worse than the reality. So to any single ladies out there thinking of getting a baby somehow, I hope that helps.

And it helps that I didn’t give birth to her, so my body isn’t recovering from that.

Okay, wait, I spoke too soon. Baby is waking up I think. More later. I might have to do some more sleep training.


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