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Single? Considering Becoming a Single Mother by Choice? Already an SMC?

Single Mothers by Choice (SMC) has thousands of members of all races, religions, ethnic groups, and lifestyles, from all over the United States, Canada, and abroad. The main thing that we have in common is our belief that a woman can successfully raise a child on her own.

A large percentage of our members are “Thinkers”, as we call our members who are thinking about becoming an SMC. The support and information that you can get from other members during the thinking stage is unique, and is incredibly helpful in making this major decision.

In addition to our “Thinkers”, our SMC community includes women who are trying to conceive or adopt, are pregnant, or are parenting a child on their own. Peer support during all these stages can help make them easier and more enjoyable. Our members often form close and lasting friendships within our organization as they share their journeys.

We have a very active online discussion Forum, and local chapters in most major metropolitan areas of the US and Canada, including, among others, Atlanta, Austin, Boston, Chicago, Dallas, DC/Virginia, Denver, Indianapolis, Los Angeles, Minneapolis, New York, Philadelphia, Portland, Raleigh/Durham, San Francisco, Toronto, and more. We also have members in Europe, and beyond.

Whether or not there is a chapter near you, if you join, you will receive access to contact information for other members in your area. Keep in mind that new members join us every day, so if there is not yet a chapter in your area, there may be one soon.


The Single Mothers by Choice Forum is an active 24/7 online support group for our members. Whether you are thinking about becoming a Single Mother by Choice, or are trying to conceive or preparing to adopt, whether you are pregnant or are already a mother, you will find a most welcoming community here.

Our Forum is a great place to get online advice, information, wisdom, and support from other members who are going through the same things as you are – at the same time as you –  and from those who have already been through them. The Forum has cohort threads for members who are thinking about becoming an SMC, are trying to conceive in the same cycle, who share a due date, or who have children of the same age.

Forum discussion topics include every aspect of the SMC journey, from thinking about, and planning for, becoming an SMC, through seeing our child(ren) off to college and beyond, and everything in between. We also have topics on practical matters, like dating, budgeting, extended family, the workplace, and much, much more.


There has been a lot of media coverage of the SMC journey. In our Blog we speak for ourselves about our experiences at all stages of the journey. Our members are welcome to send contributions to the blog! Send them to SMC Director, Jane Mattes, office@singlemothersbychoice.org, for consideration.


At our 30th Anniversary Celebration in 2011, for the first time in our history, some of the adult children of Single Mothers by Choice spoke to us about what it was like to grow up in an SMC family.

It was a wonderful day of panels and presentations about what we have learned in these last 30 years, and about how this choice impacts us and our families.

In addition to the panel of now-adult children discussing Growing Up in an SMC Family,  there was also a panel with Mothers of Grown SMC Children, as well as a panel about Searching for Genetic Roots. And Single Mothers by Choice founder and psychotherapist Jane Mattes, LCSW, gave a presentation on “Growing Up in a Non-Traditional Family”, in which she passes on tips about parenting our children.

Wish you had been there? Well, we filmed throughout the day, and the DVDs of these panels and presentations are now available! You can order them now.

Contact us if you have questions.


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