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    40th Anniversary Celebration Online Video 


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    Missed our 40th Anniversary Celebration? Single Mothers by Choice (SMC) had over 850 people registered to attend our 40th Anniversary Celebration. These videos cover both days of the event, over 8 hours of content, and include panels and speakers including:
    • Grown Children from SMC families discussing what it was like for them
    • SMC Moms discussing connecting with donor sibling families
    • Jane Mattes, SMC founder, speaks about how we talk to our kids about the Daddy question.
    • Fertility: donor insemination, donor sibling connections, a day in the life of an SMC, the genetic puzzle, and much more!

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  • The Original Single Mothers by Choice Book Written by SMC Founder, Jane Mattes


    Single Mothers by Choice: A Guidebook for Single Women Who Are Considering or Have Chosen Motherhood

    This is the official guidebook of SMC. Jane has been a psychotherapist in private practice in New York City for over thirty years and is a single mother by choice. In this book she addresses the unique issues we face when making the decision about whether or not to become a single mother by choice, as well as the issues that come afterward.

    Partial Contents: Thinking, planning, conceiving, pregnancy, birth, daddy questions, dating, and much more. Some sample agreements with a known donor are also included.


  • Our founder, Jane Mattes, LCSW, is a pioneer and the leading expert in the area of single motherhood by choice. She offers both group and individual consultations to those who are considering, or have chosen single motherhood. Jane is a NYC psychotherapist and single mother by choice. She founded Single Mothers by Choice (SMC) in 1981, shortly after having her son. Over the last 40+ years she has counseled thousands of people who are considering, or have chosen, single motherhood.


Individual Consultations

If you’re just starting to consider becoming an SMC, in the planning stage, trying to conceive or adopt, or in the midst of the parenting years, a consultation can be a great help in sorting out the complex issues that may arise. Some popular topics are “I’m not sure whether or not single motherhood is for me,” “How do I explain to my child why there’s no Dad in our family”, “How do I pick a donor”, and many, many others.

If you are interested in more information about fees and scheduling an individual consultation with Jane, contact us.


Group Consultations

Jane offers groups on Zoom about various aspects of the SMC journey to our community and beyond. The groups are small (maximum 8 people) and meet for 90 minutes.

  • Thinkers Groups

    These groups are for women considering single motherhood. Among the topics discussed are :

    How do you know if single motherhood is right for you?

    How are the children of SMCs turning out?

    How do you handle the reactions of others?

    How do you have a social and professional life while parenting as an SMC?

    For more information about fees and to reserve a place in an upcoming Thinkers group, contact us.

  • Groups for Moms

    Jane also hosts groups on Zoom about "The Daddy Questions" geared towards new moms and pregnant moms-to-be. She addresses questions such as:

    How and when to tell your child about their origin story.

    Who is my "Daddy?

    Do I have a Daddy?

    Where is my Daddy? and more.

    Being prepared, and preparing your child, are important to helping the child feel comfortable with and understand their own story.

    For more information about fees and to reserve a place in an upcoming "Daddy" group, contact us.

Books Our Members Liked

These are some of the books that our members have liked and shared with other members of the SMC community. If you purchase them through these links a percentage of the sale will go to support SMC!


“I've been part of the SMC community since I was thinking about getting pregnant. They always have my back with useful, nuanced advice, trustworthy info, and personal experience. I feel honored to be a member, and to see all the children grow up alongside mine.”

– Sophie Holland