Advice For Women Using Known Donors

I had a meeting recently with a potential known donor (and good friend) and the director of the Assisted Insemination program at at the clinic that I used. The director led us through a discussion of our expectations and hopes.  We talked a lot about our feelings and what we each wanted.  And then, to my surprise, she told us to stop thinking about what we wanted right then.  She strongly urged us to decide on some policies and procedures that we would use to handle unexpected situations, and to come up with a process to follow if either of our feelings changed after the child was born, or as the years passed.  I think that she was really right.  I was so busy thinking about what I wanted NOW, and how I imagined my life and child(ren) would turn out, that I’d forgotten that things always change and life … Continue reading

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