How Will I Know When I’m Ready To Be A Mom?

This is the secret no one tells you when you’re a kid: there’s no magic age when you suddenly become an “adult”, at least not in the ways you think it will happen when you’re a teenager. The reality of being 30 or 40 is just not anything like what the 13 or 16 year old me thought it would be. I still feel like a stupid teenager sometimes but not nearly as often as I did even 10 years ago. And I have teenage nieces, which a) has not deterred me from wanting to be a mom :lol: and b) makes me realize I have grown up and learned a lot since then.

Sometimes I think I should be more mature by now. But I think we’re all always still learning and we all have habits or knee-jerk reactions we’d like to change, buttons we’d like to stop letting people … Continue reading

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Single Moms By Choice Don’t Need To Do It Alone

Heard on All Things Considered

 

Pam Rector (left) with her daughter Grace became a single mother by choice when she was ready to have a child. Liv Aannestad is expecting her first child in March through the same process, and like all expecting parents she has some questions.

Liv Aannestad has known she wanted kids as long as she can remember.

“I always assumed it would happen the normal, typical way: I’d meet somebody, maybe either in high school or college, and maybe have a few babies,” she says.

As years went by, and she still hadn’t met the right person, Liv started thinking about doing it on her own — maybe adopting or fostering — but the timing never seemed right.

Now, she thinks it is. Liv, who is 36 and single, recently became pregnant through in vitro fertilization. Like all expecting parents, she has a lot of … Continue reading

I’m Pregnant!!!

Yes, you read the title correctly! I’m currently 15 weeks along, and I’m very excited!!

My 1st trimester was a breeze — I was really lucky. No morning sickness at all. I hardly noticed I was pregnant, except that I was pretty tired. But it was nerve wracking not having any symptoms because I didn’t have the daily confirmation that I was still pregnant. I’m now in the clear, getting bigger and am feeling confident!

Since this is slightly unconventional, I’ll answer some Frequently Asked Questions below (no, I haven’t been asked all these questions, but I have been asked some of them, and I know you’re thinking them! :))

No, you didn’t miss anything… I’m not married.  And, no, this wasn’t an “accident.”

This was very well planned out, like many things in my life. I decided to do this because I wanted to have a baby so badly, … Continue reading

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