So many of our members tell us that they wish they had joined SMC earlier. They thought they had to wait to join until they had made a decision about single motherhood. This is not at all the case.

When you first start to consider whether or not to become a single mother, it can be difficult to discuss your thoughts with friends or family. About half the members of Single Mothers by Choice are not yet mothers, and half are already moms, and we all are happy to help you. You do not have to go through this decision-making process by yourself. And, if you want to protect your privacy while exploring this choice, yes, anonymity is possible.

You can find advice, wisdom, support and information through our local chapter meetings and/or our lively 24/7 online discussion Forum, which has a special area for Thinkers, as well for those trying to conceive or adopt, and for moms at all stages of single motherhood.

We encourage you to join SMC and make use of our unique support network as you go through this very important decision-making process and figure out the best path for you.


Latest Posts About Thinking

  • At this time of year, SMC usually sees a pop in new members joining the SMC organization, perhaps due to New Year’s resolutions, or maybe just because it’s the start of a new year. And the biggest question for maybe-SMCs (who we call “Thinkers”) is often, “How can I do this? Or, “Can I do…

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  • I waited for a long time to find Mr. Right and start a family but that never happened. Finally, I was at an age where I needed to make a choice.  I investigated adoption and hit many barriers.  So, I decided to see a fertility specialist.  I decided against insemination because of my advanced maternal…

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“I joined when I was in the Thinking stage. The forum was exactly what I needed to research the SMC experience. I felt more confident with that support and information, and am now a mom to a baby boy!”

– Anonymous