So many of our members tell us that they wish they had joined SMC earlier. They thought they had to wait to join until they had made a decision about single motherhood. This is not at all the case.

When you first start to consider whether or not to become a single mother, it can be difficult to discuss your thoughts with friends or family. About half the members of Single Mothers by Choice are not yet mothers, and half are already moms, and we all are happy to help you. You do not have to go through this decision-making process by yourself. And, if you want to protect your privacy while exploring this choice, yes, anonymity is possible.

You can find advice, wisdom, support and information through our local chapter meetings and/or our lively 24/7 online discussion Forum, which has a special area for Thinkers, as well for those trying to conceive or adopt, and for moms at all stages of single motherhood.

We encourage you to join SMC and make use of our unique support network as you go through this very important decision-making process and figure out the best path for you.


Latest Posts About Thinking

  • (This is the second half of Motherhood. The first half recently appeared in this space.) If I decide to become a single mother, I would probably also be deciding that my child would be an only child. Not only would s/he not have a father, but also it would be just the two of us….

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  • Choosing Single Motherhood Most women’s journey to motherhood begins with a trip to the bedroom. Mine began with a trip to my parents’ basement. Unfortunately, it’s not nearly as kinky as that sounds. While visiting my parents, I spied a pile of nostalgia on a dusty shelf downstairs: old photos, yearbooks, and my senior year psychology project….

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“I joined SMC when my son was a baby, and he's about to turn 21! The wealth of knowledge and support I've received from SMC got me through some really hard times and I found some great friends. We are a diverse group, and yet we are wholeheartedly there for one another.”

– Nancy N