So many of our members tell us that they wish they had joined SMC earlier. They thought they had to wait to join until they had made a decision about single motherhood. This is not at all the case.

When you first start to consider whether or not to become a single mother, it can be difficult to discuss your thoughts with friends or family. About half the members of Single Mothers by Choice are not yet mothers, and half are already moms, and we all are happy to help you. You do not have to go through this decision-making process by yourself. And, if you want to protect your privacy while exploring this choice, yes, anonymity is possible.

You can find advice, wisdom, support and information through our local chapter meetings and/or our lively 24/7 online discussion Forum, which has a special area for Thinkers, as well for those trying to conceive or adopt, and for moms at all stages of single motherhood.

We encourage you to join SMC and make use of our unique support network as you go through this very important decision-making process and figure out the best path for you.


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  • When I started this journey I had no idea there was even a term for having a baby solo. The phrase “Single Mother by Choice” came into my line of vision in a Google search. My neighbor started this baby party. She was hitting forty in months with no man on the horizon; she was…

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  • At this time of year, SMC usually sees a pop in new members joining the SMC organization, perhaps due to New Year’s resolutions, or maybe just because it’s the start of a new year. And the biggest question for maybe-SMCs (who we call “Thinkers”) is often, “How can I do this? Or, “Can I do…

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“I felt at home in SMC and being around others who had the same dream was a great help. SMC support gave me confidence and encouragement throughout the process and the benefit of meeting other women who were on the same journey.”

– Anonymous